Paula Rae

Newton's Third Law of Motion: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Karma refers  to the spiritual principle of cause and effect where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect).   Good intent and good deed contribute to good karma and future happiness, while bad intent and bad deed contribute to bad karma and future suffering. But, as a Christian, it was simple: You reap what you sow. i could've titled this volume "The Reaping" but I decided to instead name it after the most devastating "L" I took during the season of reaping the seeds I had sown during The Great Rebellion. When I was in my 20's sowing seeds of rebellion and craziness, I hung my hat on the fact that I was a good mom. I took good care of my two children so as long as I didn't make any decisions that would impede upon that, I was good. Not so.  As long as I sowed good seed, kept my hands cl...

Welp... It was like a bad John Legend sing along. From "She Don't Have to Know" to "Everybody Knows". Only much to the chagrin of the church, I felt the latter about missing my Boyfriend #2. The church leaders wanted... or maybe needed me to go back to my husband and fix it. Make it work. Repent and fit in the box. There I was, stripped of my position in the church and with a First Lady that wouldn't speak my name or acknowledge my presence. So, I tried to humble myself an fit in the box. And I failed. Then, I moved out in August 2007. Tried a last ditch marriage retreat in February 2008. My divorce was finalized April 7, 2008. Found out I was pregnant in June 2008. Boyfriend #2's divorce finalized in January 2009. My divorce was clean cut and easy. Boyfriend # 2, not so much. It was drug out and he was drug through the mud. We did move in together eventually close to the winter of 2008 because it didn't make sense to have two pl...

As more "incidents" occurred, I thought I was ready to rack up a few incidents of my own. I did, and felt SO guilty that I soon quit and returned faithfully to my unhappy marriage. A few years later, I decided I was fine and began to work on an escape plan. This time I was completely disconnected in every way AND though I was still working faithfully in the church, I had missed quite a few months of any service due to working in ministry. Church had become a 3rd job and there were no opportunities to refill my cup. At this same time I developed a closer relationship with a friend. We had known each other for a while but we had started becoming closer. I was picking him up from work in the evenings and we would talk. About surface things at first, then we realized we had a lot of things in common... like we weren't happy in our marriages. We compared stories.  He was broken, I was broken, and now looking back at it all, I feel that our brokenness is what originally ...

Unpacking, Volume 1: ? The romanticized title would be 💕 "How I Fell In Love With and Married My Male BFF"💕, which would be a true statement. The more thorough title would be "How I Started Dating My Male BFF While We Were Both Still Married to Other People and Eventually Married Each Other". Toward the end of 2017, my for-eva-eva husband, who is also a real life comedian, stood flat footed at his comedy recording and told jokes. Many jokes. Then he announced in one of them that I had been his side chick😯. Yes, I'd spoken to him about the importance of living in transparency being a HUGE part of our journey. Yes, I knew the joke was coming. But, the moment you feel the eyes of the "✌non judgmental brethren✌" upon you (because, did I forget to mention this show was at a church: OUR CHURCH!!!!!) one might begin to do a little soul searching in preparation of the oncoming questions. So let's start unpacking back at Marriage #1...

Week #1: Unpacking!!!! I plan to unpack my baggage as I make this new blog space my home for the next 365 days. Happy New Year!!!!!!!! Feel free to leave comments on the blog, inbox on Facebook @PDashRae, or email Paula@P-Rae.com! Let me know what we should unpack first🤔

I am P-Rae aka Paula Rae! I will be blogging/vlogging my way through 2018 and THIS is your invitation to join me on my journey. Allow me to inroduce myself to those of you who don't know me well: 1. I'm a "Non Traditional" Christian. This means that I am a Christian by definition... and NOT by the "traditional" sterotype. I may have an opinon on a situation but my opinion is just that: MY OPINION. I DON'T JUDGE ANYONE!  Next week as I go through my personal unpacking, you'll understand my reasoning. So if this rubs you the wrong way, hang in there through Week 1: Unpacking Into Transparency. 2. I'm a wife. Yes...this is my 2nd time around... but I'm feeling like it'll be for-eva-eva. I've been married to my for-eva husband for 8 years. My 1st marriage lasted just about a month short of where we stand right now, so I'm gonna say we're winning so far. We will further discuss how long we've been together durin...